#071 – Sex Positive Mormon Therapist

Natasha Helfer Parker joins us to talk about being a sex positive, sex therapist and Mormon. How does she deal with her training versus the Church’s doctrine? We also read a listener letter and talk about Reason Rally in Washington, DC June 4.

3 thoughts on “#071 – Sex Positive Mormon Therapist”

  1. I love, love, LOVE, that you had Natasha on your show! She is an incredible woman, and has helped me far more than she could ever know. I was born and raised a Mormon myself, and the sexual aspects of it went very very deep. I did not even understand how deep until my own honeymoon. I had sexual desires, but the guilt far overrode it. For years and years I struggled with my own sexuality. The more I struggled, the guiltier I felt. And definitely NOT sexy. We would go a month or two without being intimate at all. I dreaded any advances my husband gave. It was BAD.

    Then, 9 years in to our marriage (yes, NINE YEARS), my husband introduced me to another podcast featuring Natasha as the guest speaker. It was the first time that I had ever heard another Mormon say that there was a problem with sexuality within the Mormon culture, and that it needed to change. For the first time, I started to understand myself, and why I felt the way I did.

    And that I wasn’t alone.

    It opened up a whole new world for me. In a sense, Natasha gave me permission to open up about my own sexuality and actually enjoy it. And I did! I was able to reach true orgasm for probably the first time ever, and ENJOY IT! No guilt, no shame. I found out new things about myself that I never knew, and it was amazing and exciting! My husband and I grew closer than ever, and we had many deep and meaningful conversations about our sexuality, and then about our faith.

    We both ended up leaving Mormonism (for quite a number of reasons), along with several of his siblings and their families, and also my brother. We are all much happier, and loving life.

    1. Sarah, I am so happy for you. I grew up Mormon as well, I am very young though-so I am glad I explored my sexuality early, but it is never too late to be so sure of yourself, because it will always be an exploration.

  2. Sarah: Thank you so much for your note. Natasha was a fun interview and I am very glad to hear how much she helped you. I would love to read your letter on my podcast, with your permission. Let me know.

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